My mother visited my dorm and realized that I am 21 years old. Oh boy....I was 21 since November 14. Got that? Write it down and send me a present (kidding). Anyways, my mother liked my roommate after she thought the nice girl was Chinese and liked the view of my dorm. Her exact words were "you can paint a picture and write a poem." Yes mother, that is what I do all the time. Do you want a painting or two?
After all that hodgepodge, she tells me the spiel about studying and blah blah. Then she said get a pretty boy make pretty love. I swear it sounds better in Korean. It sounds like a script from the Notebook with everyone's favorite boy, Ryan Gosling.
Unfortunately, my mother is not the only one that has been trying to get me "hitched" or whatever you people call it. My friends are "discretely" hooking me up with their friends whom I am not interested in what so ever and my aunt is telling me about her friend's son that goes to the same school as me. WHY? I honestly do not get it. People think there is something wrong with you if you are single. Like you have a third boob or you have a load of snot up your nose to the point it is protruding.
First of all, there is nothing wrong with being single. Actually, there are many things wrong with being in a relationship.
Expensive: Valentine's day = negative cashflow from buying chocolates that you yourself are not eating. Christmas = negative cashflow from buying presents you yourself are not using or wearing. His birthday = you buying presents for someone with the money you could have bought yourself a Louis Vuitton bag. Let me tell you one thing. Nothing comes between me and my bags. I rather have ten bags than one man. Another thing, you can have ten bags, but you aren't allowed to have ten men. You serious?! Think about getting less for your money. We are in a recession people. Save your money for retirement and not on him.
Time consuming: I do not know about you, but I need my time and my space. I do not want someone hitting me up twenty four seven to hang. Also, because of technology, he can text/call me whenever and where ever he wants. Serious? What if I just want to lay around in bed and watch Suits alone? I honestly cannot stand sleeping with people. Cuddling? okay fine, but not all the time. Don't touch me when Harvey Specter is saying something sexy. I don't want you ruining the moment. Touch me or hug me after you fixed a car or pumped those biceps, but not during Suits! Please!
No Privacy: I need my privacy. I realize that a lot of couples share their passcodes and such cause they have to. If you said no, he is going to be all "why? you have something that you don't want me to see?" Then you are all "no, I just need some privacy." Then it becomes a mess. It is so annoying just to think about it. You have to share everything with him and he does the same. Do you really want to know how many girls he slept with? hook upped with? It's only going to make you mad and feel insecure and skip dessert next time you go out to eat.
Loss of Independence: I have friends that are no offense to them, but they are way too dependent on their boy friends. They do not have friends other than each other and their boy friends. When they are on the verge of breaking up, their life is at stake cause their boy friends are their everything. Unless your boy friend's name is Jesus Christ, he should not be your everything. Have a life! Do not just wait for him to come home to have something to do. Make friends and go out. You do not have to be with your boy friend to feel fulfilled.
Annoying: I honestly think it is annoying to go out on dates. Dressing up, the make up, and whatever else. I am usually reluctant on going on a date if it involves free drinks. However, I usually do not enjoy my dates and when I come home, I am tired and just exhausted as if I came back from a three hour lecture. Men or boys or whatever in general are annoying. They one, usually do not care about what you say, wear, eat, or do cause all they want to do is get in your pants and two, they like to just talk about themselves and compare themselves to the next guy. Really? Men, girls do not care! Well....at least for me, I just tell them straight up that I do not appreciate it.
Where there's a good, there's a bad. Therefore, when there's a bad, there's a good. I know I may have been harsh about relationships and such, but if you have the right contestant, it can be a good thing too. My friend has been through thick and thin with her boy friend, but at the end of the day, he makes her happy. These are reasons why I do not believe in relationships and therefore have never been in a relationship.
I'll tell you this though before you find a Godiva, you will go through some cheap Hershey's. Personally, being single at the moment seems right for me. Casually dating and making friends are what I am about at the moment. I am just frustrated that so many people think there is something wrong with me and that my time is running out to get a man and settle down. If you are one of those who encourage your friends to get a significant other, STOP IT and mind your own business. Unless you are gonna pay for the dates and buy me outfits to wear on my dates, butt the freak out!
This blog says a lot of negative things about guys and how they are just a bunch of Hershey's, but believe me, us women can be worse with our oh my goshes and our dramas. I know. I know. However, I'm a girl so I am just stating from a female point of view.